mental health

The Sufficiency of Grace for North Koreans

North Korean refugees in an Elim Community Pilates class.

Since 2022 Elim Community has served North Korean refugees in South Korea with free classes. Through this program, Crossing Borders has been able to form relationships with many North Koreans. Unlike Elim House, our safehouse for North Korean women in need, Elim Community participants are usually independent and not in urgent need of help. Because of their relative stability, it presents a different challenge in ministering to their hearts and showing them a need for a savior. 

Tea time

After most Elim Community classes, we host a “tea time,” which is a time for North Koreans to engage in community with one another at a nearby coffee shop. The many hours spent with refugees have revealed the unique challenges in sharing the gospel with North Koreans. Many are consumed with guilt as they forge new lives in South Korea. And it has reminded us that we must always be mindful of North Korean culture, as we present Jesus to them. 

In a recent tea time, a North Korean woman said that she has a hard time believing in Jesus and that he is like a Genie in a bottle to her. She wants to go to church but she feels that it is hypocritical for her to go because of her sinful behavior during the other six days of the week. Our staff enthusiastically shared with her that awareness of one’s own sin is the first step in understanding our need for a savior.

lack of community

A 2023 study by the Korean Hana Foundation showed that only 19.2 percent of North Koreans participated in social activities on weekends, which included religious activities. Pastors and Christian workers in South Korea have told us that, though some North Koreans are interested in church, many find it hard to connect to South Koreans at church, which has become a deterrent for regular attendance. 

a culture of shame

Furthermore, North Koreans have shared with us that they are wracked with the guilt of the things they did in North Korea to survive during the famine, which lasted between 1995 and 1998. It was a time marked by utter desperation. In her book, “Nothing to Envy: Ordinary Lives in North Korea,” Barbara Demick describes the famine as a “killer.” 

“Yet another gratuitous cruelty; the killer targets the most innocent, the people who would never steal food, lie, cheat, break the law, or betray a friend.”

It is said that the good people died first during the famine. We try to counsel North Koreans who feel this guilt by sharing with them that only Jesus can help them escape the shame of sin. They are truly a people who need to hear about the forbearance of our loving father in Romans 2:4, that God's kindness is meant to lead [them] to repentance. This is a hard pill to swallow for many, but to some, it is like water in a drought. 

North Korea has a hyper-guilt-driven culture in which citizens must attend weekly self criticism sessions where they must confess errant thoughts against the regime. They are harshly punished for any breach against their government and their social status is permanently affected by their behavior. North Koreans come from a culture of self loathing. Considering this cultural backdrop, it makes sense that the woman from Elim Community said that she didn’t want to go to church because of her sins. 

The Gospel is Enough

This strikes at the core of the gospel and Jesus’ mission on earth. To have our transgressions wiped away, we must have someone powerful enough to forgive them. 1 John 1:9 (ESV) says, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Sin causes people to feel a sense of guilt and shame. Those who have been confronted by the mercy and grace of our lord are able to “live as a people who are free” 1 Peter 2:16 (ESV). Our challenge is to present this truth in a way that North Koreans in their culture can understand and receive it. 

We are thankful that the gospel is enough. Please continue to pray for us as we share the good news of the gospel with our North Korean refugees.

Rest for Your Souls

Praying for Nancy at Elim House.

Nancy was referred to Elim House by a local Hana Center as she needed to remove herself from a toxic situation with a former boyfriend. He was convinced that she was cheating on him and to prove him wrong, she attempted to end her life by swallowing an excessive amount of sleeping pills in front of him. According to Nancy, he had also tracked her whereabouts by installing a secret app on her phone.

A pastor from her church told us that before Nancy met this man, she was active in the church and did not show signs of exhaustion. She came to us completely drained of energy and spirit. Upon arrival, Kelly and Michelle, the other two residents currently at Elim House, welcomed Nancy in and prepared dinner for her with dumplings, potatoes and vegetables.

Within a week of her stay, Nancy sought out a psych evaluation at the hospital and asked to be admitted if possible due to potential mental issues. Our social workers grew increasingly aware that Nancy’s mental issues seemed to be more severe than they initially thought as she settled in at Elim House. The doctor who evaluated Nancy gave her the option to be admitted and also prescribed her medication. Nancy chose to start taking her medication and to return to Elim House. For her own safety and the safety of others at Elim House, our team kept close watch over her.

Last Sunday, Nancy voluntarily asked to be discharged from Elim House as she plans to be admitted to the hospital in about a month. Her stay was just a few short weeks but she had developed a good relationship with other residents and staff in that time. Nancy’s time with us came to a close at our weekly Sunday worship as the other residents and our team lovingly covered her in prayer and blessings. While we desire to have gone deeper with Nancy, given the mental issues she struggled with, we know she needs to be under the care of trained professionals who can properly treat her.

Many residents, like Nancy, only stay for a few weeks. We don’t know if they’ll come back or if our paths will ever cross again. But we hope the time that they spend at Elim House leaves an indelible impression of God’s sabbath, his holy rest. Our prayer is for Nancy to receive the ongoing treatment she needs to get better physically, emotionally and spiritually.

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. - Psalm 46:1